“I dont know who to talk to”
“I’m a little afraid my mom or dad will judge me”
“What if they kick me out?”
“What if they tell my other family members?”
Hmmmm. I bet 9 times out of 10 some of those quotes sound familiar to you. You might of heard those quotes from a friend, a cousin, etc. Well, here is the thing. If you are hearing these quotes often, that’s a serious issue. Kids, teenagers and young adults shouldn’t have to feel that way. They shouldnt have to feel judged especially by their parents.
Parents should be the least amount of people to judge their kid. If they feel judged, they won’t come to you about anything. What if your child is apart of the LGBTQ+ community? Are you going to treat them any less different? Are you going to kick them out because of their sexuality? If you are that type of parent, you are wrong. You should make your child feel comfortable enough so that they can come talk to you. What if your child is having issues with their girlfriend or boyfriend? What if their girlfriend or boyfriend is of the same sex? Are you going to turn that conversation down because of it? If you keep doing that, that could possibly lead your child into depression. Depression is a real thing nowadays. Your child could be suffering from depression because of other issues. Other issues like bullying. What if your child is getting bullied at school because of their sexuality? What are you going to do about it? Ignore it? I think not.
You have to learn how to understand and communicate with your child. Just so you both can have a better relationship with each other. Parents, its okay to be curious and ask questions about the LGBTQ+ community. That’s how you get to know your child more and grow that bond. I’m sure it will make your child happy. I’m sure you all heard the term or saying “coming out”. What does it mean when your child is “coming out”? They are simply coming out to you about their sexuality. It’s to make themselves feel comfortable first. Then they will “come out” and make everyone else feel comfortable about their sexuality. Parents are the main priority to “coming out”. You should definitely listen to what your child has to say.
Parents, stop being a judgemental parent. They look up to you as role models. They need your love, attention, support, advice and help on this. You have to guide them in the right direction, not change them.